Do it for the kids: effective co-parenting

As parents, we strive to do whatever we can to protect our children. Sometimes parents decide they must separate or divorce one another for any number of reasons. Unfortunately, parents can too often get caught up in the negativity and emotion aspects surrounding the separation and/or divorce and forget about protecting their children.

There are two important factors to keep in mind for your children to successfully adjust to the consequences of divorce: 1) the maintenance of a meaningful routine relationship with each of their parents; and 2) to be shielded from ongoing parental conflict. 

It is very important to support your child's other parent's role and relationship with your children. As seen on Today.com, Billy Flynn Gadbois understands this and puts this into practice. He recently posted on his Facebook page that for his ex-wife’s birthday, he “got up early and brought flowers and cards and a gift over for the kids to give her and helped them make her breakfast.” Unfortunately, he received the typical negative reactions as to why he would go to so much trouble for his ex-wife.

This is how he responded: "This annoys me. So ima break it down for you all. I'm raising two little men. The example I set for how I treat their mom is going to significantly shape how they see and treat women and affect their perception of relationships. I think even more so in my case because we are divorced. So if you aren't modeling good relationship behavior for your kids, get your shit together. Rise above it and be an example. This is bigger than you.

Raise good men. Raise strong women. Please. The world needs them, now more than ever."

This is good advice!